Dealing with rejection is hard especially if you are shy. The key is to be consistent and take small steps. I know the feeling of a fast heartbeat asking someone out in person and hoping I could say the words correctly.
One thing you can do to overcome shyness is to talk to strangers about general things such as the weather or directions. However, everyone knows guys do not ask for directions. You can build from there and eventually work your nerve to ask that special someone out for a date. If you live in a small town and concerned, go to another town and practice there.
Online Dating is much easier for a shy person. You can prepare what you will say without the fear of getting tongue tied or speechless. You can get to know them well before you ever meet. If they reject you does not hurt as much. You can communicate online, by phone and then meet in person. Make sure you have a good profile and talk about common interests with prospective dates. Do not send a sentence or two, old or disgusting photos and do not lie.
I can be shy, but once I feel comfortable can have a conversation for hours on the phone or in person. As for rejections, not everyone you contact will respond positively. It is a numbers game and you always should know you are a worthwhile person to date.
How To Overcome Shyness Overcoming shyness isn’t simple, but it’s possible. The first step is to realise shyness is a choice. The second is to see it’s a choice that’s ruining your life. It stops you creating crazy, memorable adventures. It prevents you forging deep, meaningful friendships.
We get one “no” in life, and allow it to prevent us from getting the “yes” of our dreams. I don’t want you to hide anymore. I don’t want you to live in fear. I don’t want you to ever…
Subscribe to our free monthly newsletter Jrob Dating Tips. Your information is confidential and will not be shared, rented or sold.[newsletter]1000 Questions for Couples
Based on Dr. Arthur Aron’s research I have not only put together questions that will help couples FALL IN LOVE but have scientifically collected a total of 1,000 of the most important questions couples should ask each other.
These are questions that go beyond small talk and simply making conversation like you will find in most “questions” books. You will NOT find questions like “if you were a color, what color would you be” or “what is your favorite flavor of ice cream”.
One of the biggest reason marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask the big questions before they walk down the aisle.
If couples simply spent some time asking each other the questions that really matter, they’d greatly increase their chances of staying together.
The great thing about a “question book” is that it makes it easier to ask those difficult questions and encourages an environment to address them.
But is Michael Webb’s “1000 Questions For Couples” the right book for this?
In short, yes. Most question books ‘beat around the bush,’ never really providing the important questions, and others simply don’t have enough questions.
On the other hand, Webb has put together the most comprehensive collection of questions, covering every single topic you’d ever want to know about before tying the knot.
It includes tough subjects like money, child rearing, career, past and present relationships, religion, morals, convictions & beliefs, personality, and even sex.
But don’t get me wrong while there are many serious and tough topics to discuss, there are also many “lighter” yet just as important topics, including the car and driving, vacations, food and well being, pets, and your favorite things.
That’s one thing I really loved about this book. It covered every conceivable topic from the super serious to the light-hearted and fun, making it easy for couples to start with easy questions and build their way up to important ones.
Also, a great bonus is having the ability to deliver 3 – 5 of the questions to my email each day, making everything automatic. I just go about my day and get new questions to ask my loved one, without having to really think about it.
In all, there’s nothing really negative I can say about this book. It delivers exactly what it says and covers every question you would ever want to ask your loved one.
I highly recommend this book for everyone. NOT just couples who are thinking of getting married but also couples who just want to feel closer together, or people dating, who just want more things to talk about.
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