How to Get a Man to Ask You Out
If you think it’s tough sitting on the sidelines with your girlfriends waiting for a man to talk to you, then you aren’t looking at the guy’s situation. He has to walk over and contact you while you’re surrounded by your friends.
You have support – he’s going it alone. If his approach works, he wins. If he fails, he has to endure the snickers of your girlfriends and walk back to the smart remarks by his friends.
Every time he gets rejected, he relives that awful moment in junior high school when he was embarrassed at the school dance. It’s a wonder men even try. That’s enough sympathy – women have their share of dating issues, too.
The point is – what can you do as a female to be more approachable for the right man? Help them out a little. To begin with, you can start a conversation. Not a female version of a pickup line, but a real conversation.
If you’re stuck in a long line at the grocery store, talk about what’s around you. “Can you believe how the price has gone up for a good steak?” “Before you buy that detergent, did you know that another good brand has a two for one sale?”
As simple as that sounds, it says, “Hey, I’m willing to talk to you” in a nice, non-threatening way. Admire his car at the gas station or his dog at the park, but don’t get personal about clothes or anything that screams “pickup.”
By keeping the conversation neutral, you get the chance to find out if you’re interested in taking it further. Even if a guy opens the door for you, instead of just mumbling “thanks,” look him in the eyes and say, “Thank you, I appreciate it when a guy opens doors for me.”
That’s flattering, which gets his attention and gives him a chance to join the conversation if he’s interested – or say, “You’re welcome” and move on if he’s not interested.
Maybe this helps you think of places and situations where you could throw out a non-sexual opening line for a man to follow and start a conversation. Since you spoke first graciously, he has some assurance you’re willing to talk, which makes it easier for him to follow your lead without feeling like he’s being manipulated.
Is this just manipulation? No, it’s not – as long as you offer sincere comments and have an open mind about getting to know him. Can you start a conversation with a man on the street or in a restaurant without a reason?
Yes, you can – no one will report you to the Manners Police. Think about where you are and what’s going on around you. Starting a conversation with a man in a crowded bar on Friday night is likely to be interpreted differently than making small talk while you’re in the same airport waiting area with him.
Place and time has a lot to do with whether you appear approachable and interesting or desperate. And if you aren’t willing to strike up the conversation, at least be inviting for men who have to work up the nerve to talk to you first.
Make sure your arms aren’t folded in front of your chest or you aren’t rolling your eyes and scowling at everyone and everything around you. Be pleasant and smile and even if he’s not your type, that doesn’t mean you can’t be friendly to someone who took the time to get to know you.
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