Are you having challenges with your relationship? Relationships require maintenance to keep that spark alive, but what do you do if you’re the only one trying to make your relationship work?
Is it a lost cause?
Take heart! Luckily, there are strategies you can use to strengthen your relationship, anyway! Find out how to move forward even if your partner is reluctant to join you or work on the issues together.
If you’re struggling to work on your relationship without your partner’s cooperation, these ideas may help:
1. Start therapy without them. If you want to start couple’s therapy, but your partner refuses to come with you, then you can proceed without them. The change in your relationship can start with you.
· You can still make progress in therapy and learn new ways to approach your relationship issues. Then, share these ideas with your partner outside of therapy. You can influence your partner as you change.
· Your partner may become curious about what you’re learning and join you.
2. Try therapy alternatives. Therapy may help, but it’s not the only option for healing your relationship. There are multiple alternatives.
· One alternative is to seek a mutual friend or family member who would serve as a mediator. It’s important to find an unbiased person who understands your relationship and will get involved.
· You can work on your issues together through weekly talks. These weekly meetings will give you the chance to work on your relationship.
3. Reframe your arguments. One of the most common complaints among couples is that they seem to have the same arguments repeatedly with no resolution.
· Instead of being pulled into another angry and resentful argument about the dishes or kids, stop and make changes. It takes both of you to argue. You can refuse to take part in the argument or discuss the issue until your partner is ready to work on the relationship. Walk away or even leave the house.
4. Do things you both enjoy. Your partner may not want to talk about, or deal with, your relationship issues, but they may still be willing to join you in a hobby or favorite activity. Whether you both love to hike, swim, or paint, fun activities can bring you back together.
· The key is to do things that you both love. If one of you hates to cook or despises dancing, then these types of activities will make you miserable. Find activities you both enjoy and then enjoy them together.
· Positive shared time can make a big difference in your lives. During these activities, you may find a new way to work through your relationship challenges. You could discover untapped strength, courage, and ideas. You might even find you’re ready to give yourselves another chance to find solutions that work for you.
Relationships require ongoing work and commitment. If your partner doesn’t want to work on your relationship, these techniques might just be the ticket to renew your love.
Difficult Relationship- More Resources
So you are in a long-term relationship and now that you’ve been together for a while, you’re finding yourself hitting some road bumps. Perhaps, at this point, you’re wondering exactly why relationships are so difficult to maintain.
Handling a difficult relationship is never easy, but everything that you have with your partner is worth fighting for, right? If you are handling a difficult relationship right now, know that you aren’t alone and that there are tips to help you.
It is never smooth sailing for strong people. They go and tackle every obstacle, solve every problem, pass every test put in front of them. Yet they get home only to find out their dearest love is upset with them for having forgot that it was their turn to do the dishes.
Patrick Doyle, counselor with Veritas Counseling, discusses why we get stuck with some people relationally and why some relationships are so difficult. See more at http://theDove.us Originally aired on theDove TV & Radio 5-9-17 Follow us on social media: www.Facebook.com/theDoveOnline www.Instagram.com/theDoveOnline www.Twitter.com/theDoveOnline www.Twitter.com/theDoveNewsroom Support theDove: https://theDove.us/Support-Us/
Unless your parents had a great relationship and made a point of teaching you the tricks of the trade, you’ve had to go it alone. However, just “winging it” isn’t always the most effective way to learn something as important and life-changing as relationship skills.